LET GOT OF WHAT’S GONE

This is the hardest part. If you can take care of this tricky bit of business, you’ll hold the key to making your peace with the silly season. Try to face up to the stuff that will never happen again.
Some people can all sit down and celebrate after the bank accounts have been split, but maybe that’s not your ex, and maybe it never will be. So do yourself a favour and try not to argue with the breakup gods and accept that your family as you once knew it and many of the holiday things you shared, are never to be again.
Trying to play the hand you think you should have been dealt rather than the cards you’re actually holding will only guarantee years of miserable Christmas times. This is life. Bad things happen, things break and feel ruined and then you pick up the tiny unbroken things and let the rest go. Then you rebuild. If you can’t accept what’s gone, you can’t build a new life. It’s that simple.