Practice detachment

Letting go of your focus on what was done to you is not simple or quick, but it does have the potential to lead you back to the person you want to be. A daily practice of choosing to let go of thinking about your resentments can help you to focus on your own humanity, on how you want to be in the world, instead of keeping you permanently tied to the people who harmed you. Regularly refocusing on your own needs and how you want to behave in the world literally re-claims your life.
You may need to practice detachment hourly, or at times every five minutes. You may need to meditate, pray, keep a journal and tell your friends and family you want their support to begin to talk differently about what happened to you. If you can start to keep your focus on yourself, then you can begin to let go of allowing a terrible experience to stain the whole of the rest of your life.